Before you have a relationship with others, you need to understand yourself, who you are, and what makes you happy.
The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.
On an airplane, people say to put on your oxygen mask before helping others. Relationships are like this—you need to keep working on you and doing your own thing, especially when you are in a relationship.
Keep your hobbies! Read that book! Take that pottery class! Go out with your friends! Go for a run! Play that game of soccer! Connect with friends!
When you are growing, your relationships will benefit, too!