Dilation: a step-by-step guide

Many women have smaller vaginas (Vs) that can make sexual penetration more difficult. Some young women have found out that they have a smaller V from a doctor’s exam, with a partner or some on their own.

Penetration is not the only way to enjoy sex, so women with smaller Vs can enjoy sex without having to change their body in any way. Many women, regardless of V size, say that the vulva – the external genitalia – is much more sensual than the vagina.

Many women do want to engage in penetration in addition to other types of intimate activity. The good news is that a small vagina in a healthy woman is often soft, stretchy and responsive to a process called dilation. Dilation can help smaller Vs expand over time and help thpage_dilator_toolsem move forward with penetration. Dilation involves inserting a small dilator with some pressure to stretch the V, little by little. Dilators come in small-to-large sizes (kind of like measuring spoons or Russian dolls.) When a smaller one can be comfortably inserted, you replace it with the next size up and repeat the process.

Some people might find that dilation doesn’t suit them, however dilation is generally effective and low risk. So what’s the down side? Dilation requires your effort and commitment. (Although, this is the case regardless even for people who choose surgery after trying dilation—dilation is required for treatments to help develop a V through surgery, as well. Perhaps even more so.)

Many of us have used these 10 steps or tips to get the most out of dilation and make it as positive an experience as possible.

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